We are so excited to start our new blog series titled, “How We Met.” To be honest, most exciting part is getting to know more awesome Lake Area couples! We want to hear your stories. We are even hosting a giveaway now until Friday, June 19, 2015 where one lucky winner will win a couple portrait session from Tademy Design and Photography as well as having their How We Met story featured on our series launch post! If you would like to enter check out all the details here – all entries will be eligible for future How We Met features, so even if you don’t make the launch there is still a chance we will feature you in the near future!
Today, my husband Leroy and I are celebrating our 5 year wedding anniversary! In honor of this special day, as well as our upcoming series, we wanted to share with you all our own How We Met story!
How We Met
Before I met Leroy I was in a very long relationship. It was a very unhealthy time for me. Through that time, I could feel the Lord pulling me to Him, but felt stuck where I was…unsure of how to let go of my “wants” and take care of my “needs.” Slowly over time, the Lord softened my heart until one day I was ready to let go of the past and move on with Him. At that point of my life I completely let go, broke down, and let God take control of my future. This was a very big scary step for me, but I trusted Him and I had realized that God would be a way better matchmaker than I was turning out to be for myself. I didn’t care how long it took for me to meet him, because I knew God’s timing is perfect and I trusted that when He was ready for me to meet this special man, I would. Everything wasn’t butterflies and rainbows after that…it was still a rough time. But I soon found out that once I gave all my trust to Him my whole world changed for the better.
Leroy and I met in 2009 at McNeese State University through mutual friends. Leroy was a founding father of the Pi Kappa Alpha chapter at McNeese (which kept him very active on campus) and I was the Head Marketing Coordinator and Vice President of the Student Union Board on campus. Basically, I was helping plan all of the events that Leroy was busy attending with his fellow Pike brothers. The Student Union Board President and a few other coordinators also happen to be members of the Pi Kappa Alpha fraternity, and being a “social butterfly” – it wasn’t long before Leroy was invading our office to visit his friends.
We ran into each other a few times on campus and one time at Sears where Leroy worked, but we never really made a significant attempt to talk to one another for quite a while. Then one day, I was on Facebook and saw Leroy tagged in something and realized his last name was Tademy. This stood out to me because when I was in high school my best friend recommended that I read a book titled “Cane River” which was based on the authors maternal family history from central Louisiana. The authors name? Lalita Tademy. Very quickly in my head I put two and two together and thought “Well if the book is based on the history of a family in Louisiana and I live in Louisiana and this guys last name is Tademy…maybe they are related?” So I sent Leroy a Facebook message saying something along the lines of “Do you have family in Colfax, Louisiana and you might think I’m crazy but are you related to the author of this book?” Since he was online he responded pretty quickly and said that his dad’s family was actually from Colfax and he is related to the author (though way down the line). At that point, I was pretty excited that I made the connection, but now I can look back and see that God was weaving our lives together long before we even met one another.
I can see bits and details of the whole story in my head and it seems like it would have taken up a lot more time than it actually did, but we started dating in May of 2009 and got engaged in September of that same year. It’s only fair to hear the story of our engagement from Leroy’s points of view, since I obviously was not a part of the planning of the proposal!
It all kind of happened fast. I remember sitting in my car on the phone with my cousin (not sure why I was on the phone with him at this time, but I was) and some kind of way we started talking about how much I love Chelsea. He tells me, “Why don’t you ask her to marry you?” I had never really sat down and thought it all out, but immediately after the idea was verbalized I realized that was exactly what I wanted to do. I headed to Chelsea’s parents house and made a bee-lined for her dad. My palms were sweaty and I had a frog in my throat. I was trying to be as calm and collected as possible, but my thoughts were racing in my head. Eventually, the words in my head sounded smooth and cool, but when my mouth opened they all kind of squeaked out.
ME: “Dad how is your day going?”
MR. TOM: “Pretty good and yours?”
ME: “My day, ohhhhh its going great.”
MR. TOM: “Thats good to hear.”
ME: “Well, I wanted to ask you a question. As you know Chelsea and I have been spending lots of time together. She is a really nice girl and I really love her a lot. I wanted to ask you if it would be ok with you if I asked her to marry me?”
MR. TOM: “What?”
ME: “I would like to ask Chelsea to marry me, if thats ok with you?”
MR. TOM: “(Chuckles) Your a good kid and I can tell you really do love her. You have a good head on your shoulders. I think she will be a good wife for you.”
ME: “Ok I am going to ask her!”
MR. TOM: “Good Luck”
***I proceed to leave out of the house.***
MRS. SANDY: “Wait, what just happened?!?!?”
ME: “I am sorry I forgot to tell you, I am going to ask Chelsea to marry me. See you later!”
I went straight to the jewelry store to see one of my good friends at Marks and Morgan Jeweler and picked out Chelsea’s engagement ring. A princess cut diamond. It sounded really fancy and the name Leroy is french for “the king” (feel free to Google it if you like)…it only made sense that a king would marry a princess. After I got the ring I had to find a way to make sure the ring box wasn’t easily spotted before I was ready, so I went to The Great American Cookie Company and asked for an ICEE cup (I needed a common everyday item to hide the ring in.)
Chelsea was working at an event on campus that evening so that was my next stop. I asked her boss at the time if she could be dismissed temporarily for me to speak to her. He said it was fine. After being probed with tons of questions about why I wanted her to come outside, I brought Chelsea out to the quad on campus. I wasn’t prepared for all of the questions, so I made up some story about needing her to help me find my keys that I dropped on the way from the car. When we got to the middle of the quad I stopped and got down on one knee and asked, “Chelsea, will you marry me? She looked at me with tears in her eyes and said….”No way!”
I’m just kidding, she said “Yes!”
We set the wedding date for Saturday, June 12, 2010 – the month after I graduated from college . It was a beautiful day and an amazing moment as we started our life together as one.
One of the most wonderful blessings that I carry with me every single day from our How We Met story is how when I let go and trusted Him, the Lord brought me the most perfect man – one who loves the Lord first and foremost and with whom I grow closer to the Lord. A lot of people say “It takes two to make a marriage work” but the truth is, it takes three. The Lord is the glue that hold your relationship together. He is the one that gets you both through the tough times (because there are tough times). As we celebrate our 5 year wedding anniversary, we are so thankful for the many opportunities God has blessed us with to meet new people, develop new friendships, and grow and learn together.
We want to here your How We Met story! If you have a beautiful story of how you met your fiancé or spouse, please send that story in to us at firstname.lastname@example.org with the following information:
– Bride name
– Groom name
– Your anniversary date (or upcoming wedding date)
– The date you met (or month and year)
– A detailed story (300-500 words) of how you met and fell in love. This can include: how long you have know each other and how and where you first met, special moments that you remember from that first meeting that you feel is special to your story (how you felt when you first met, was it a blind date, the first song you danced to, something funny/awkward they said or did, etc.), how long you were or will be engaged before the big day, how he proposed…think back to that time and write it all out! If you have been married for a while, tell us some things you have learned throughout these years of marriage, how many kids and grandkids you have and how that has strengthened your marriage. What can you share with newly married couples who visit our site? Chances are you will be all emotional and teary eyed as you write it out!