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Lovely lovely friends. I am SO EXCITED to share this beautiful gem with you all! I have been a fan of J.Lynn Designery for a while now, so when I saw that the newly married lady in charge collaborated with Ribbon Events to create this beautiful wedding planner, I just had to check it out.

So here it is! I went through each section of this planner and wrote down all the cool features I think you will love and find super helpful! Plus, I included plenty of images for you to take a look at all the gorgeous details!! 🙂

Let’s do this!


The first impression – I LOVE that there is a spot to write the couples name on the opening page! We all know how much we love to write our name on that first page of the planner and this little touch helps draw the focus from planning a wedding all by yourself, to the fact that this special day is for the both of you! Also, I really like that there is a small section to write down a few things about you as a couple (like your engagement story!! This will be so fun to look back on!) and what you are looking forward to on this journey. Also, there is a nifty pocket up front to keep things you get over the course of this wedding planning journey.


Engagement Timeline – This section is broken up into things to do to prepare for your big day! I love that it is set up as a checklist so that you can check off things as you get them accomplished – plus, there are a few lines to add in your own random “to do’s” that come up along the way. One small detail that caught my eye was the “book hair/makeup trials” – which we think is super important to do and best to schedule with your bridal portraits! That way you not only get your hair and makeup just how you like it, but you also get to put on and wear your dress around for a couple hours – which is THE BEST run through to make the wedding day getting ready process go smoothly!


The Planner – I have two very favorite sections in this wedding planner and this is the first one! This section is the largest section of the planner, and breaks down into many important “mini-sections” for things like Budgeting, Venues, Stationery, Attire/Beauty, etc. I am so excited to share with you how super helpful these are!! Just like your wedding, the good stuff is in the little personal touches 😉 I also love that at the end of each of these sections there is a spot to write the information for the vendor you ended up booking per that category!

  • Budgeting – I love the breakdown for the budget. It covers all the bases, but isn’t overwhelming. There is also room for you to add on things specific to your budget!


  • Venues – This mini section has spots for certain details about both the ceremony site and reception venue, so when you bring this perfectly sized planner with you to meetings (or keep in next to you as you search online) you have an idea of things to ask/look for!
  • Stationery – This section is super helpful! It has a section with invitation essentials and a list of things like programs, signage, table number, etc. so they aren’t forgotten and are planned for in advance!
  • Attire/Beauty – Oh my, checklists are so very nifty! This section makes sure you have all the things you need with you on the day of your wedding (gown, veil, garter, day-of bag, something old, new, borrowed and blue, etc.) AND it also has similar checklists for your bridesmaids, groom, and groomsmen!
  • Catering and Bakery – Okay, so the beginning of this section is set up lovely just like the rest of the categories, but I did not understand what exactly went in the meal/menu purpose so I got clarification that this portion was “designed to be a place for couples to write in their menus for the wedding day/weekend; for instance, at a more traditional wedding, this would include the Rehearsal dinner menu and Reception lunch/dinner menu; but I know couples often do a morning-after brunch or maybe another wedding meal event during the weekend, and so we included multiple slots for this info so it could be as flexible as possible for recording the finalized menu.”
  • Additional sections – Music (has cute activity suggestions as well!!!), Photography/Videography, Florals/Decor, Honeymoon (great place to keep your flight/hotel/car rental info)


  • Then another great section is the Wedding Day Timeline, Roles, and Transportation – This section includes a page with timeline essentials and a space to add in a time and details about that specific thing! SO helpful to have this handy when you are planning your timeline to make sure you don’t miss anything important as you lay it out! Other things I love in this section include: Day-Of Duties – which is a great reminder that it is SO important to delegate duties for the day of the wedding (and before) and let people help you! This section helps you think of tasks to delegate people to, as well as keep track of who is supposed to be doing what. On that same thought, the Day-Of Contacts in addition to the Day-Of Duties is a great way for someone like the Maid of Honor to help delegate things on your wedding day so you aren’t stressed!

wedlove-wedding-planner-getinspiredguide-louisiana-weddingGet Inspired – This section is so cool! First, I have to say I LOOOOOVE the detail of the information here – you learn a lot about the different areas but you aren’t overwhelmed with text. In the photo above you can see what I mean a little bit with the Color Palettes – but the Floral Guide ya’ll – this section has not only a painting of the flower but the season its good to find that flower in, the name of the flower, the price point, and color spectrum for that flower!

Other mini-sections in the Get Inspired portion include: Modern Etiquette (helpful for addressing envelopes, setting up your registry (GREAT suggestions in the notes for this!!), setting the table (with a chart that tells you how to know what size cloth you need for what size table…ya’ll I told you this planner is super helpful!), centerpieces (DESSERT CENTERPIECES – yes please!), wedding websites and hashtags!


Then our last lovely tab would be The Notebook section, and ya’ll one of my FAVORITE features is the fact that there are so many (but not TOO many) blank notebook pages throughout this planner, in each section, for you to write down notes about that particular area. But in the back there is a whole section for you to write down ideas, sketch things out, or questions to ask vendors, etc.

BONUS – Hidden in the back of The Notebook section is a super cute mini-section called Let’s Get Married, where you get to wrap up your wedding planning journey with your favorite photo from your wedding day and write some prompted favorite memories from your wedding!

This wedding planner has a beautiful, clean design that helps you plan without being overwhelmed with text and information! You fill things in, instead of reading through pages and pages of info. It is also a PERFECT size to keep with you in your purse or on your desk. I highly recommend bringing this with you to work (in case you get a call from a vendor or family member with questions about the wedding), or in case you need to stop by for a meeting with a vendor throughout your day. Last, like I mentioned in the notebook section, I love that there is plenty of space to write things down so you don’t have to have a separate notebook for additional things – everything just stays there together!


We love these beautiful wedding planners so much that we will now be selling them here on our site and over at our studio downtown! Head on over and pre-order yours today and receive a special gift from us, until September 28, 2016!

We know you will love this wedding planner just as much as we do!


Since day one, I have been itching to share this beautiful Southern Weddings Planner with all of you! I truly believe it is one of the best tools you can have along with you during your wedding planning journey! So much so, that we gift each and every one of our own wedding clients with this planner to help them as they begin planning not only their wedding, but their lives together.


The Southern Weddings Planner was created by the beautiful ladies behind Southern Weddings Magazine.

The mission of Southern Weddings is to inspire brides to cultivate a life full of love — celebrating their families, the culture of the South, and what matters most to them — and then to draw from that rich well to create a meaningful beginning to married life.

With that same purpose in mind, these lovely ladies have created a very meaningful wedding planner to encourage brides to plan marriages more beautiful than their weddings.


This wedding planner is full of wonderfully helpful tools to help you plan every aspect of your wedding. One of my favorites being a handy checklist with suggestions of what to take care of 12-9 months before your wedding, 9-6 months before your wedding, 6-3 months before your wedding, and 3-0 months before your wedding. Ya’ll, this thing is not only helpful it is absolutely beautiful! So much love and thoughtfulness went into every detail.



Southern Weddings Planner Highlights

I wanted to share a few highlights from the planner with you as well, so I will briefly go through each of the 10 tabs and share just some of the handy things you can find inside:

1. Gathering Inspiration
What a beautiful place to start…dreaming. This section includes a brainstorming worksheet and many places for gathering visual inspiration. This is one of the many places for you to grab those bridal magazines you have laying around (or coming to your doorstep) and build a real life Pinterest board of your wedding. We always find such great ideas on Pinterest, but there is nothing like cutting and pasting together by hand your own dream board of ideas!

2. Budgeting – This is something that needs to be tackled very early in the wedding planning process because it sets the stage for so many questions and decisions to come. This wedding planner helps you sort through and decide your priorities for your wedding, gives you a budgeting spreadsheet, a vendor pricing guide (so you have at least an idea of what certain vendors charge), and lots and lots of tips and suggestions!

3. Working with Vendors – One of the most intimidating parts of planning your wedding can be choosing your vendors. It is so important that you are well informed about each person you work with and we can’t suggest enough how important it is to meet them face to face and make sure that you feel comfortable working together. The Southern Weddings Planner gives you the tools to prepare for those meetings with tips for working with different vendors, general tips for finding and hiring vendors, and a place to keep track of all your meetings and the information you gather. One of my other favorite parts of this section is that it includes sample wording for your stationary such as Save the Dates, your invitations, reception cards and response cards.

4. The Look – Yes, the dress! The dresses, tuxes, hair, makeup, shoes, and jewelry – this is another spot for you to dream and plan! Some of the things this section includes are an inspiration guide for dress types and spots to collect important measurements and notes about each of your bridesmaids and groomsmen.

5. Planning Your Ceremony – The ceremony will be one of the places where you might have to make a lot of decisions and answer a lot of questions. Some of the things the Southern Weddings Planner includes in this section are a basic ceremony structure (so you have an idea of what all a ceremony could include), common rituals and traditions that go on during the ceremony, questions to ask, tips for writing vows (with examples!), and a place to plan out a timeline.

6. Planning Reception – Usually you get to relax and enjoy the party a bit more during the reception! This section includes tips for choosing your meal, seating arrangements, traditions that go on during the reception, and song selection for those significant parts of the evening (like your first dance, father-daughter dance, bouquet toss, etc.)

7. Gracious Southern Bride – In true Southern Weddings style, they have included a section on southern hospitality, sending Thank You notes, and gift suggestions for your spouse, bridesmaids, groomsmen, parents, and vendors.

8. Logistics – This section includes information you will find super helpful for building a timeline for your wedding day, booking transportation, booking room blocks, and getting your marriage license. The little things that must be taken care of! (We also highly suggest checking out our recent post with specific information for getting your marriage license in the Lake Area!)

9. Marriage Planning – Okay, this is my favorite section of the whole Southern Weddings Planner, and honestly it is one of the most important parts of the whole wedding planning experience. This section is all about you and your spouse-to-be and how you can make your marriage even more beautiful than your wedding day. This is so important, because this is what it is all about! The wedding is the celebration of your marriage, and your marriage is the beautiful life you are beginning together. This section includes fun questions, suggestions of things to do together (to just enjoy each other and take some time to relax during this whole process), 10 hints for a happy marriage, a name changing checklist, and an anniversary gift guide.

10. Appendix – This is the last section and are the final useful tidbits for planning your wedding. Some of the things this section includes are southern traditions, a rehearsal dinner guide, registry tips and a list of sources that the ladies from Southern Weddings highly recommend checking out.


Hands down, we believe this is a must have for every bride! Whether you are a bride who stumbled upon this post, mother-of-the-bride, or know someone getting married, we highly suggest checking out the Southern Weddings Planner and all the fun things the ladies of Southern Weddings have going on. We started the Louisiana Wedding blog to help Lake Area brides plan their weddings and build beautiful marriages, and we believe that Southern Weddings is doing that for couples all over the south as well!

If you would like to find out more about the Southern Weddings Planner (or purchase one for yourself, or a bride you know and love) you can do so here.

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What do you think of the Southern Weddings Planner? Do you want one for planning your own wedding? Do you have one already – what do you think? We can’t wait to hear how the Southern Weddings Planner has helped you!


The end of the month has become bittersweet for me. I get so excited to start our next book of the month, but when I get wrapped up in our current book and I am sad to see it end. I recently set up the Couples Book Club page to list out our upcoming books of the month – I am so excited about this! You can go ahead and order next months book (Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace Revisited) or the next few months of books (links provided for each) and join in on our book club fun!

After reading through the introduction to this months book, I was excited to find out that the author set it up to actually be read together as a couple! This is exciting since that is how we set up the Couples Book Club as well. I am a big fan of reading through and highlighting parts of the book that stand out to me, this helps me to quickly look back and read through parts that I felt were important to me or my marriage. With the nifty discussion questions at the end of each chapter, I used this same idea to circle questions that I thought would be good questions to discuss out loud with my husband.

Our last book was set up in a way that I felt it beneficial to post weekly blog posts as we read through, but this month we will discuss the book here as a whole.

So lets dig in! What did you think? As I started reading through I got really excited and highlighted like crazy! These sentences from the introduction really stood out to me – I even wrote them out to hang by my study desk.


From there, I have to admit, there were significant parts of the book where I didn’t quite feel like I could relate to the authors story. Don’t get me wrong, there are some really great nuggets in this book for couples! But I am admittedly not much of a TV/movie buff, and therefore felt like many of the references Slater makes in the book went right over my head. There are actually many details of the book that make me think that the author and I could be great friends…she is passionate about seeing marriages thrive – I am also, she is a wife and mom who also works from home – so am I, she homeschools her kids – and, Lord willing, we will start homeschooling this Fall…but maybe we don’t have quite the same sense of humor? I still can’t quite put my finger on it. I was a lot more connected to Chapters 7-10 as Slater shared significant life changes, losses, parenting adventures and advice for marriage building friendships. I also love how Slater often refers back to keeping the Lord primary in your marriage, I truly feel that a marriage can not survive “happily ever after” without God as a center focus.

“You see, it hasn’t simply been me encouraging him to draw closer to the Lord; he’s encouraged me in my walk with the Lord as well. And it’s something that helped pull us through those two difficult years.”

While I might not have related much to some of the references in the book, the discussion questions were  very thought provoking! Here are some of the questions that my husband and I have discussed, or look forward to discussing to help build a stronger “Team Us”:

– What are two or three ways you’re intentional in your marriage? Whether it’s setting aside time to talk about your day or scheduling a weekly date night, affirm a few specific things that you do well. Now brainstorm a few ways you can do better.

– Mentally make a list of one or two ways you’ve noticed that your spouse has made progress in an area. Together, take time to affirm and encourage each other in the changes you’ve seen. Applaud the other’s growth.

– What can you do better to approach conflict as an adventure rather than a threat?

– When it comes to offenses, are you quick to let something go or do you allow grudges to fester? If you’re prone to grudges, take some time to examine your heart and ask the Lord to help you grow your ability to let things go.

– Have either of you ever felt lost in the Land Between? What was your attitude in the process? Did it help unite or divide you as a couple? In what ways?

– Do you attempt to learn from your spouse’s parenting approaches? How can you do better at this?

– When you speak about your spouse in front of your kids (or others!), what’s your general tone? Are there more compliments than complaints? What are ways you can improve when it comes to your words and attitudes?

– Imagine you and your spouse fifty years from now. What do you see? What can you do now to affect your marriage trajectory so that you might realize what you imagine?

Okay – It’s your turn! I want to hear what you thought about the book – discuss your thoughts below in the comments!

I have read through this book before, but I actually learn new things every time! This was a lot to cover, but each and every chapter held such vital information for strengthening your marriage or relationship. If you would like some ideas on where to get a book and what different ways you and your someone special can read along visit our Couples Book Club intro post. While it was easy for me to figure out what my love language was just by reading through the chapters, I had a bit more trouble figuring out what my husbands was. We both did the quiz located in the back of the book, which helped a lot! Then, over time, I paid more attention to what my husband would respond to the most. What makes him upset the most? What makes him really happy and thankful? Since learning our love languages it has been so much easier to show love to one another. Dr. Chapman mentions on page 136 that love is a choice, and choosing to speak our spouses love language is a choice we make daily to show them love.


So if you are using the free study guide as you read through each chapter, I hope you are taking time to talk through and/or write down answers to some of the questions. I have printed out each of the pages and refer to them as I finish up each chapter. In going through the questions, I have found there are at least two or three questions I can answer for each chapter – yes it’s okay if you do not have an answer for every question! Here are a few of my answers:

Chapter One

2. What solutions have you found useful in solving some of the problems that couples face in their marital relationships? 
One BIG solution I have found in solving problems in my marriage, is stepping back and evaluating my own behavior. A lot of the time, in our relationship, there is tension when I am being selfish or not being thoughtful of my husband and what he has going on. Another thing, is taking time to actually talk things out. A lot of times I don’t even realize what is making me upset until I sit and talk about it with my husband.

4. What are primary and secondary languages? How does each function in our marriage? In our other relationships?
Our primary love language is our “native language” – the one we speak and understand best. (pg. 14) Secondary languages are usually the love language of others, like our spouse, that we have to practice and make a more conscious effort to “speak.” Chapman gives a great example when he compares our native love language to our native speaking language. If I speak English and my husband speaks Chinese, we won’t be able to understand one another. It will take time for us to figure out ways to understand one another. This is so true in so many ways! After nearly 5 years of marriage, I feel like we are really starting to understand one another a lot better. By acknowledging and “speaking” each others love language, we can actually learn these things so much easier! The same is true in other relationships. I am now very aware of what makes others around me happy. This gives me a good idea of what their love language is and how I can show love to them as well.

Chapter Two

1. How would you define love? Given your exposure to Dr. Chapman’s concept of five love languages, might your definition have room for additional thought and development?
The best definition of love, in my opinion, comes from the Bible. 1 Corinthians 13: 2-8 ESV says:

 “And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.”

Even reading through this verse again, I will be honest and say that I don’t give love enough credit. Without it we have nothing. Without putting the time and attention into developing and committing to love, it’s understandable why our society is having so much trouble with marriage.

3. Discuss the “love tank” metaphor the author describes. How often do you focus on your spouse’s love tank? How successful have you been keeping it filled?
To be honest, after we had our kids, I stopped focusing so much on my husbands love tank and gave nearly all of my attention to loving on my children. While I don’t think its bad at all to love on my children, I was really hurting my marriage. Honestly, since reading this book the first time, I have been a lot more active in showing love to my husband because his happiness is important to me. It has been so much easier to be successful at keeping my husbands love tank filled when I made a choice to make him a priority. There is plenty love to go around, but sometimes we have to step back and make a decision to actively try and share love effectively with those that mean the most to us.

5. As you seek to grow in your marital relationship, what are some of the benefits of keeping your spouse’s emotional love tank at a proper level?
Joy. The first benefit I think of is joy in my marriage. We all have so much on our plate, we stay busy with work and all of the responsibilities we have, but when we make an active effort to love and show love to one another our lives are filled with so much joy.

Chapter Three

1. Have you had a “falling in love” experience? As you reflect, how much of it was illusion, and how much of it was reality? What are some of the illusions you had?
I definitely remember “falling in love” with my husband. The most significant thing I remember about it was I use to clean his whole apartment for him and cook dinner before he got home from work. I still actually do this when he comes back from business trips, but I definitely do not do it every single day. Remembering this is actually confirmation to me that my love language is in fact Acts of Service since doing those things were ways that I first showed love.

3. What is the nature of real love? Contrast what it means to “fall in love” with experiencing “real love.” What characteristics of real love separate it from a euphoric, in love experience?
Chapman really hits the nail on the head when he states, “We fail to reckon with the reality of human nature. By nature, we are egocentric. Our world revolves around us. None of us is totally altruistic. The euphoria of the in-love experience only give us that illusion.” (pg. 32) “Real love” is the love that is mentioned in the Bible verse above. Patient and kind, it doesn’t envy or boast. It isn’t resentful, or conditional. It leads you to forgive and forget. It allows you to acknowledge your own faults. Marriage is a commitment and a responsibility, it takes work and it takes attention. Marriage isn’t perfect, just like we aren’t perfect. The more you put in, the more you get out.

4. What is our most basic emotional need? What do we need to realize to begin aligning with our spouse and meeting that need?
On page 33, Chapman explains that, “Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love, but to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love that grows out of reason and choice, not instinct.” To make steps to meet that need we need to realize that we have to actively make choices to love one another and show love in a way that our spouse will best receive it.


Chapter Four – Words of Affirmation

3. Dr. Chapman points out that the keys to providing the right kinds of encouragement are: (1) empathy; and (2) seeing the world from your spouse’s perspective. Is this an area you might be able to improve upon? What creative steps can you suggest for learning what is important to your spouse?
This is definitely something that I feel like I can improve upon. Reading through this chapter I am reminded just how important our words are to just about every relationship, but even more so for marriages. I love the suggestion to take my husband’s perspective on a situation. This really helps me to step back and evaluate how I am acting and how those actions might effect my husband. My role as a wife is to lift him up, but my harsh or selfish words can easily do the opposite if I do not pay attention to how I react.

4. When we have wronged our spouse, what role can kind words play in reconciliation and forgiveness? How do such words become an expression of love?
Sometimes it is so hard to push our selfish desires out of the way and apologize, but that can be the greatest thing we can do for our relationship. By refusing to let anger fuel us we actually show our spouse that regardless of who is right and who is wrong, we respect them enough not to argue. By apologizing when we are selfish or by choosing kind words instead of words of anger, we are actually showing them love.

“The same words expressed with a loud, harsh voice will be not an expression of love but an expression of condemnation and judgement.” (pg. 43)

Chapter Five – Quality Time

2. What is focused attention? What is its goal?
I chose to answer this questions because, to me, it is the core of quality time. Focused attention is undivided attention. I have a horrible habit of spending too much time on my phone or working, which means I am often not spending focused attention for long amounts of time. The goal of giving your full attention is to really be engaged in what is going on and participate. Since we work from home and have two youngsters, my husband and I do not get to spend much “just us” time. So when we are out on a date I make a very conscious decision to put my phone away and really give him my attention – which encourages us to talk and laugh a lot more!

“And where do we find time for such activities…we make time just as we make time for lunch and dinner. Why? Because it is just as essential to our marriage as meals are to our health.”(pg. 69)

Chapter Seven – Acts of Service

“Each of us must decide daily to love or not to love our spouses. If we choose to love, then expressing it in the way in which our spouse requests will make our love most effective emotionally.” (pg. 100)

4. Dr. Chapman lists some creative ideas we can exercise to embrace our spouse’s love language of acts of service. Briefly discuss these. If your spouse’s love language is acts of service, which ones would you consider using?
My love language is acts of service. I feel most loved when my husband helps me out around the house, especially when he does things without me asking! The acts of service can be as small as getting the kids ready for bed while I finish up some work, or as big as cleaning the house and cooking dinner while I’m out as a surprise!



Chapter 9

2. Do you know for certain your primary love language? What might be your secondary language or languages? Dr. Chapman suggests spending time writing down what you think is your primary love language. Then, as you weigh them, list the other four languages in their order of importance.
My primary love language is Acts of Service. As I was reading through the chapter for Acts of Service, I immediately recognized that the examples listed were exactly what I complain to my husband about the most. Not only that, I realized that when my husband and I first started dating I showed him love by cleaning and cooking for him every day. (Yea, he was pretty disappointed with that false advertisement when the in-love experience was over haha!) To further confirm what my love language is, my husband and I took the love language quiz in the back of the book. The awesome thing about the quiz is it helps you not only find out your primary love language, but also ranks the other love languages! So for mine: Acts of Service was #1, then Quality Time, then Physical Touch, then tied for last were Words of Affirmation and Receiving Gifts.

3. Now write down what you think is the primary love language of your spouse. List the other four in order of importance as well. When time permits, sit down with your spouse and discuss what you guessed to be his or her primary love language. Then tell each other what you consider to be your own primary love language.
Since my husband took the love language quiz with me, we were able to find out what his primary love language is while also ranking the other love languages. Surprisingly, while our primary love languages are different, my husband and I had the same top 3 love languages. Since we are now aware of each others love languages we are able to make more effort to keep our “love tanks” full.

Chapter 10

2. How can our expressions of love, within the context of knowing our spouse’s love language, enable us to deal with past conflicts and failures in our marriages?
Chapman says it best on page 133, “Love doesn’t erase the past, but it makes the future different. When we choose active expressions of love in the primary love language of our spouse, we create an emotional climate where we can deal with our past conflicts and failures.” Love doesn’t immediately heal our wounds so it is as if they never happened, but love is like a bandaid that covers our wounds, allows them to heal over time, and stops dirt from getting in an interrupting the healing process.

3. Why does the “in love” experience eventually fail to meet one’s need for real love after time? Explain what the author means by “love is a choice.” How do our choices make a difference in our relationships?
The “in love” experience fails to meet our need for real love when we come back down from that false reality of perfection. Real love takes work. Real love takes two people getting to really know one another and accept each others weaknesses, quirks, and differences. As I spend more time actively trying to fill my husbands “love tank” I am very aware that love is a choice. Love is a choice because loving our spouse is an action that we must make a conscious effort to do every day, especially when we do not speak their love language naturally. When we choose to love our spouse and put their needs high on our to-do list, we are making a choice to strengthen our relationship.

Chapter 11

2. How important to us is our need to feel significant? Explain how love functions in meeting this need?

“The need for significance is the emotional force behind much of our behavior. Feeling loved by a wife or husband enhances our sense of significance.” (pg. 143)

love what Chapman also says on page 143, “I feel secure in her presence. I may face many uncertain ties in my vocation. I may have enemies in other areas of my life, but with my spouse I feel secure.” This speaks so strongly to me. When my husband and I do start to argue, I recall feeling like he is an enemy that I must protect and defend myself against. That doesn’t make a strong marriage. We are a team and when we work together as a team we are strengthened by our love for each other. We are important to one another, we feel loved, and we feel safe.


teamusbook_ashleighslaterNext month’s Couples Book Club book is…. Team Us by Ashleigh Slater!

Click the link to order your copy and join us as we learn more about building a strong marriage with teamwork!


What are some revelations you have had in reading the book? Do you have a good idea of what your love language is? What about your spouse? Share how you figured it out in the comments below!

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